Thursday, July 02, 2009

Enjoy every trimester of your pregnancy

Your first trimester is probably one-fourth completed by the time you realise you are pregnant -- and that's a good thing, because the first trimester is probably the toughest, rich in morning sickness, acidity, psychological troubles (only in case you're worried about how life would change after you have a baby), and much more. But the moment you realise you are pregnant, I have a friendly prescription for you -- ENJOY as much as you can!

Some people would claim that life changes the minute you know you are pregnant and the stress and sacrifices begin right then, blah, blah... and it is definitely so for those with special medical conditions, but if yours is a normal pregnancy, then throw away such notions and enjoy yourself completely! That is the best way to spend those 8-9 months! And that is actually the right way to prepare yourself for the future too.

Life will undeniably change after you have a baby -- no movies for a while, a strict diet, irregular and sometimes no sleep, and so on. Some people think they need to prepare themselves for the post-natal situation by thinking (and moaning) about it right from the first trimester of the pregnacy. Others think they should be over-cautious while pregnant and miss so many things that after the delivery, they repent for having wasted those wonderful free days!

I feel you should let go and have a bash all through your pregnancy, so that once the kid is born you feel satisfied that you enjoyed the pre-natal days to the hilt and are then prepared for the little sacrifices -- which are after all temporary!
  • Do not overwork. Reduce your workload and reserve lots of time for sleep and enjoyment!
  • Go out as much as you can. Avoid travelling on rocky roads, keep away from two-wheelers and autos as much as you can, but travel safely wherever you want. Travel will be restricted a bit after the baby comes. My husband and I made so many trips to visit our parents, as well as explored so many new places in Bangalore. Similarly, I also went around a bit coming to Chennai for the delivery. Now, when I'm confined to home with the baby, I have lots of memories to recall and enjoy!
  • Don't forget to watch all the movies you want to. You can't go to the theatre with an infant, and even at home you cannot dream of watching a full movie at one go, without any interruptions. Vikram and I watched at least one movie every week, mostly on DVDs.
  • Eat everything you love -- this is the time to do so. Once the baby is born, you have to be on diet, to maintain your weight as well as to ensure that you do not eat anything that troubles the baby (gastric foods, etc) -- keep that in mind, and eat whatever you feel you will sorely miss after the delivery -- aloo bonda, masala paratha, kothu parotta, pitla, colocasia fry, whatever you love!
  • You can also eat out occasionally, provided it's a safe place. There is nothing wrong with eating out in a good restro/bakery you frequent, but eating pani puri in the road corner is a no-no. Similarly, it's safe to eat cooked food. Avoid raw stuff even in good restaurants. So, stay safe but enjoy yourself.
  • Write lotsa emails, make lots and lotsa phone calls... you might not have time even for that later. So, keep in touch with your friends and warn them that you might not be in touch for a few months later -- so that they don't think you have vanished into outer space.

Oh well, just do whatever you want to... don't keep brooding about not being able to do things after the baby comes... do it all earlier, so that you are prepared for the next phase of life, and all set to greet it with a bright smile and no repentance!

Disclaimer: If your doctor has adviced you not to do something, DON'T do it! Enjoy within the limits prescribed by your gynaec!

Note: The prescription also holds for men whose wives are expecting a baby.

1 comment:

MH said...

Janani,

Congratulations to you both on parenthood. Nice to see you back in the blog world.

Any books you read for pregnancy and infant care? We had subscribed to iVillage and used to read their newsletters / articles.

Memorable discussions will happen on who the child resembles and the comparison / analysis happens feature by feature: eyes, forehead, height etc. This continues for years.

Also memorable will be the first - times: the flip, the walk, the call.... Enjoy and take care.

-- Mahboob